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Love Stories


The above photo is cover art that a high school friend did for my Love Stories series ❤

  1. Have you seen the video of Mika Kunis doing a reno on her parent’s house? Her parents are just the cutest thing ever. And just observing how Ashton fits in with their family. I seriously watched the whole video lol
  2. Guardians of the Galaxy Vol 2. I admit I cried a little and also I just like Chris Pratt (and his whole fam)
  3. Mcfly songs, in particular, It’s All About You. Can we just take one second to appreciate how handsome every single member of the band is? There is just no ugly one in the band. Maybe their ugly band member was each of them when they had ugly haircuts haha Also Tom and Danny’s (esp Danny) are so good!
  4. Speaking of Mcfly, have you seen Tom’s wedding speech?
  5. The song and music vid – That’s What I Like by Bruno Mars. So talented
  7. Caffe Roma in King’s Cross. Best pasta and service! If you go you have to get the burrata starter
  8. From This Moment – Shania Twain and Backstreet Boys!!!!! The story at the beginning about her parents!!!!!!!
  9. Jo Koy is tied first as my fav comedian (with Trevor Noah). His Netflix special killed me
  10. Another Netflix thing – Dear White People series. OMG. Binge watched the whole series within 12 hours

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April 24, 2017 at 5:58 pm

Love Stories: Trailer

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The first post of my first series Love Stories will be released on Wednesday, April 26 and run every Wednesday for a few months on the topic of LOVE.

Some of my favourite questions to ask couples is “How did you get together? How did you know the other was the “one””. But there are a lot of love stories untold – stories of parents loving their kids, of trying to love yourself, of the loved and lost, of the one-sided love.

It is undeniable that love plays a huge role in the world, being the muse for song, film, and novels. Although we sing, act and write about it so much, love is hard to describe. It can feel like a warm hug. A tug on your heart. Butterflies in your stomach. An all-consuming grief. Peace. You can only feel it for yourself. And then tell stories about it.

Here’s one I (and a friend of mine) prepared earlier. Ok this one isn’t really a story, it’s just a mate talking about love.

There wasn’t a single moment, it was little subtle realisations over time. We were constantly pushing each other to be stronger, more out of our comfort zones and closer to our goals. We’ve both grown together in maturity and life experiences and I think that’s when you know.

Your partner shouldn’t complete you. You can stand on your own two feet, but I feel it’s more of a “together you can both collectively achieve more and find happiness together” mindset. Everyone has a different personality type based on so many criteria, but over time you know who you align with, understand their love language, etc. Certain personality dynamics bring out the best in each other. 

Preview: I couldn’t help but laugh at the timing. The day I had officially finished my Masters was the day I may have met “the one”. Was it really that magical? 

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April 13, 2017 at 3:18 pm

March Madness

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The photo above was taken at my cousin and good mate’s wedding last year. They just sent Thank You cards and photos last week, including this one 🙂 It was such a fun wedding. And also Justin’s black eye. He got it playing basketball, when his mate head butted him. Dammit Jude. Jude is also his physio, I thought they were meant to heal?! Also Jus says I never post about him

  1. Trevor Noah’s book Born a Crime is so good. When I read, it’s in Trevor Noah’s voice recounting stories of growing up coloured (half black, half white) during the Apartheid in South Africa
  2. Arctic Monkey’s cover of Tame Impala’s It Feels Like We Only Move Backwards
  3. Speaking of Arctic Monkey’s Miley Cyrus’ cover of Why’d you Only Call me When You’re High
  4. Another music fav, I would just make this all music if it wasn’t for Trevor Noah. John Mayer’s The Edge of Desire. Justin only showed me this a few weeks ago. Apparently the speech inspired him to go after me when we were fighting in the early stages of our relationship lol
  5. Uncle Ming’s whisky and apple juice goes alright!
  6. My to-do list at work from my boss
  7. Recreating photos
  8. The song and the video for Tilted are amaze
  9. This is a bit lame, but I also really like my job. So much so that I came to visit on my day off. Because it was bring your puppy to work day.
  10. March Madness is basketball right? Last night in semi’s Jus scored a buzzer beater in over time. All his team ran to him and one even carried him. Great game
  11. The soul in River

Written by Candice

March 28, 2017 at 3:38 pm

Be a Man

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Last week my company made an announcement to the market that made our share price drop dramatically. We had a few tough meetings about cutting costs (although I know all the managers had more than a few), leaving a sombre tone in a normally cheerful office.

Our CEO, Ted, led the difficult discussion of the hard agenda. I was  impressed by the way he spoke and carried himself. I am not even brown nosing – I don’t think he’d ever read this, it was my (and a few other people in the office’s) observation that he presented the hard truth well.

The way he carried himself was “like a man”. So I reflected a bit on how he presented and what aspects of masculinity he was personifying. I’m not sure why I enjoy writing about this topic, I should really be writing more posts directed to women, but maybe because I see the effect that men have on women.




Ted only joined the ranks in January, so he has inherited all the decisions of the past management. While the poor decisions were not his to apologise for, he owned up to them anyway, because he inherited it in his position. This is a stark contrast to a lot of people (men aren’t exclusive to this) who don’t own up to their mistakes. So, be accountable for your decisions.

The Truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth

Six weeks into the job, Ted was already making hard but necessary changes. He didn’t sugar coat, evade or charm. He unashamedly laid everything out, warts and all. I think this is a sign of maturity and self-esteem to be able to be honest.


Making tough decisions, especially ones that others don’t want to make because they’re difficult, even though they’re the right decision. These decisions will probably mean that the company will be viable for a lot longer.

Servant heart

Ted offered support in his power and puts hard yards in. there are no empty promises and whispered sweet words. A man sticks by his word and lends a hand when he can.

It ain’t easy

After the tough meeting, Ted walked out hurriedly, looking stressed and sad. I think this is the biggest lesson. It isn’t easy doing the right thing. It isn’t easy being a man. He said that he knows he won’t wake up and change his mind about the right thing to do.

If you think there is a massive disparity between a CEO making tough decisions and you, there isn’t. The only difference is one little decision.

Let’s get down to business. To defeat. The huns. 

Written by Candice

March 8, 2017 at 12:00 pm

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This is really contrary to a few posts ago, talking about shining days. Let’s chat about the drudgery of the everyday grey days. You are probably in it now – the same day as yesterday, which won’t change tomorrow, counting down until the weekend or your holiday or your birthday.

Maybe these are the days that will make us holy or happy or fulfilled. It’s not a life to just always be looking forward to the highs. Maybe a better way to live is to see the beauty and the love in the drudgery and our experience of that moment will be heightened and made beautiful.

Have a beautiful, ordinary day.


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February 28, 2017 at 12:35 pm

February favourites

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The photo above is one of my favourites. I took it travelling before World Youth Day in Argentina outside the cemetery where Evita lies. I miss South America and I miss travelling!

  1. If It’s Not With You – Phoenix, or even the whole Alphabetical album, really
  2. ShortStop Donuts  – the best donuts I’ve had
  3. Waking up 15 minutes earlier to start the day with pilates (ok sometimes only 5 minutes)
  4. This is Us – Many and Milo are just.. just… ❤
  5. The new Riverdale series on Netflix – especially if you ever liked the Archie comics
  6. The Book Thief – Markus Zusak
  7. Valentines Day / Guy love from Scrubs
  8. This is old, but how Far North Queensland is called “FNQ”. So Australian
  9. The Poke bowls at Salmon & Bear 
  10. Being able to farewell Yellowcard

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February 21, 2017 at 10:58 am

Blurred Lines

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I often give ladies  (and even gentlemen to tell ladies and to keep in mind themselves) advice to keep boundaries. I’m not going to pretend that I’m perfect in this, knowingly and unknowingly, I’ve cheekily toed the line or defiantly taken a step over. But more and more I’ve realized how important it is to make and maintain some boundaries.

People overstep boundaries, despite knowing it is wrong or that they can get hurt . Why? A lure they can’t deny? Fear of loss or loneliness? Boredom? The thrill? To fulfil the need to be needed?

So then, let’s discuss: What is a boundary? Why do we need them?


If boundaries are not built and the land is Terra Nullius,  will anything remain special? This goes beyond just anything physical. Secrets, rituals, special places will lose their specialness lol because it has already been done. This post feels a bit familiar. 

It’s the loving thing to do to guard the heart of someone else too. Sometimes they don’t know they need it or can’t do it themselves. Setting healthy boundaries are a sign of positive self-respect and conveys that the builder (let’s call him Bob) will not allow people to define them. It is also a positive defence mechanism protecting Bob against manipulation or being used.

Why do I find interest in this topic, especially on Valentine’s Day? Apparently suicide rates tend to rise in this period as well as the rate for filing for divorce. It is natural for people to want to be loved, valued and needed. This is a good desire. But often in trying to fulfil this desire, we go to unhealthy sources for validation or are in a rush to feel something or have skewed expectations to fulfil this desire,

If you’re being asked to lower your walls, sometimes it is good for you. But when you are asked to compromise your values and what you’re comfortable with, then maybe have a think – would this person still be around if you asked them to respect your boundaries? Sadly, the answer is sometimes no. So should you be with this person? I’m going to hazard a guess and say, move on.

One thing I am really adamant about is best friends of the opposite sex. I don’t think it can work. Friends for sure – I am mates with lots of guys. But best friends? Come on. One is in love with the other, even if they don’t know it. We need boundaries in lots of things, particularly in romantic relationships.

And God said, “Let there be a vault between the waters to separate water from water.” So God made the vault and separated the water under the vault from the water above it. And it was so.

The story of creation in Genesis is a story of creating boundaries. Separating light and dark, water and earth, woman from man. This implies then, that boundaries are good. Boundaries prevent  us from reaching beyond our limits and hurting ourselves. But, even the first humans broke boundaries by eating an apple they weren’t supposed to. People often see boundaries as a hindrance, when sometimes they are in fact good (This is not to say all boundaries are good. Open up, glass ceiling). But if we really think about it, it can be freeing – freeing from unhealthy and unworthy and hurt.

So if you think your boundaries are a little bit blurred, then have a think about where you want your boundaries and what you are protecting, what you value.

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February 14, 2017 at 11:55 am

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