Google Ex Smackdown

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The other night, I was grateful to be able to chillax at home and watch my new favourite show “The Ex-list” (Monday 9.30 Channel 10), which brought up the sport of “googling exes”. About a month ago, a good friend of mine told me he googled a girl – not an ex, but a girl he just met and found out nitty gritty details of her life through the search engine. When he told me he did this I was shocked – like stalker much? But the thing is, he’s not weird or a stalker and apparently “everyone does it”. This was reiterated when a mutual friend of ours googled the same girl.

It is not only search engines, but a plethora of networking sites such as Myspace, Facebook, Friendster, Bebo, Multiply that we are able to locate just about anyone and find out quite a lot about their life. Why do we feel the need to check up on people that are new/ no longer a part of /no longer important in our lives?


  • If we start dating them there will be no ugly surprises?
  • Bored at work?
  • Curiosity got the better of us?

No longer a part of our lives

  • They are no longer in our lives because they, not you choose.
  • Things ended badly and you want to find a photo to attach to your voodoo doll?
  • Bored at work?
  • Curiosity got the better of us?

No longer important in our lives

  • Do you want to prove that you’re doing better than they are and that they are now lost without you?
  • Bored at work?
  • Curiosity got the better of us?


These search engines and networking sites have spawned both advantages and disadvantages. Firstly, the ease in which we can find almost anyone – long lost relative, past lovers, primary school friends, can be a great thing. I know one of my friends found his long-lost family through the internet. But if some guy that tried to dance up on you at a club found you … not so great. And if you’re gross and incestuous and find your long lost father and fall in love with him, you make my stomach squirm.,22049,23494958-5001028,00.html

Secondly, it has given internet users a better ability to expand our networks, creating better job opportunities, better ability to find potential mates, both of the platonic and romantic kind. It’s true what they say – It’s not what you know but who you know. But now it seems as if everybody knows everybody and the six degrees of separation has been reduced to four and I feel a little claustrophobic.

Thirdly, you can maintain a degree of anonymity. There is most definitely an advantage there, but I’m to brain-dead to think it up. But if you decide to “diss” somebody online or “anonymously” leave nasty comments to somebody, 90% of the time, you will be found out. Furthermore, anonymity is a pedophile and stalker’s best friend.

Fourthly, the internet can also be really invasive, particularly Facebook, where I found out that my friend started dating this guy through my sister who found out through a Facebook status update. Networking sites such as Facebook only provide you with a certain amount of control what goes up about you – especially ugly photos.

Fifthly (? lol filthy but not), it’s an avenue to keep in contact. But I believe that friends don’t need networking sites to keep in contact. I would much rather call or see my friends. So the people that I would keep in contact with over these sites are acquaintances. I don’t spend enough time with my family and friends, so why should I cut some of that time to be able to give to acquaintances? Number 4 and 5 are the main reasons that I have not succumbed into adding a Facebook account, despite many of my friend’s insistent requests. And I would waste even more time that I already do at work.

So in conclusion, technology is a crazy kid. We should harness its strengths and minimize its weaknesses and be careful what you tell this kid cuz it has a big mouth.



Written by Candice

December 12, 2008 at 3:54 pm

Posted in Contemplate.

5 Responses

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  1. haha.. nice entry!
    lucky i put all my profile on private.
    but you got to read these.. so funny

    and this

    have a lovely weekend and Merry Christmas to you and your family


    December 13, 2008 at 8:10 am

  2. LOL abs! especially at the first article.

    Have a great holiday! x

    Candice Noelle

    December 13, 2008 at 11:17 am

  3. hahahaha funny blog mann

    “you guys sounded good as a what is it? four-twet?”



    December 15, 2008 at 12:38 am

  4. i searched up candice noelle and i didn’t realise you have a blogging page!

    i do now LOL jokes nice to see you writting 🙂

    Tim Valencia

    December 17, 2008 at 9:17 am

  5. What the HECK! After you said you googled candice noelle, i did too, just to check that I ticked the right box when wordpress asked if i allowed searches to my blog (i correctly ticked no, go me) AND THERE ARE AT LEAST FOUR OTHER CANDICE NOELLES IN THIS WORLD. I feel gross and unoriginal 😦

    Candice Noelle

    December 17, 2008 at 10:38 am

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